Building a Love that Lasts: The Seven Surprising Secrets of Successful Marriage
January 2010, Jossey-Bass
Drs. Charles and Elizabeth Schmitz's award-winning book reveals how to sustain a long-term loving marriage. In addition to exploring the seven key ingredients that define a successful marriagetogetherness, truthfulness, respect and kindness, staying fit, joint finances, tactile communication, and surprise and unpredictabilitythe authors have included hundreds of insightful and practical interviews with happy couples.
- Focuses on what's right about a successful relationship, rather than what's wrong
- Written by a popular and very active couple known as "the marriage doctors," who lead lectures, training, workshops, and other events every week all over the country
- Contains candid interviews with a diverse collection of happily married couples from around the world
This book offers a positive, upbeat approach to living happily ever after.
The Marriage Quiz.
Chapter 1 How Will I Know I Am in Love?
Chapter 2 Learning to Dance.
Chapter 3 Character in Love and Marriage.
Chapter 4 It's the Little Things That Matter.
Chapter 5 Nicknames: the Private Code for Love.
Chapter 6 And Then . . . Along Came Kids.
Chapter 7 Seven Secrets #1: It Takes Two to Tango.
Chapter 8 Seven Secrets #2: No Sacred Cows.
Chapter 9 Seven Secrets #3: the Golden Rule.
Chapter 10 Seven Secrets #4: Your Body Is Your Castle.
Chapter 11 Seven Secrets #5: Filing a Joint Return.
Chapter 12 Seven Secrets #6: the Loving Touch
Chapter 13 Seven Secrets #7: Beyond Boring.
Chapter 14 Seven Secrets to Avoiding the Seven-Year Itch.
Chapter 15 the Stress Test.
Chapter 16 Marriage as a Torch Red Convertible.
Chapter 17 a Tribute to Lasting Love.
Chapter 18 Failure Is an Option.
Chapter 19 Reflections on Love and Marriage.
The Benefits of Marriage.
A Seven-Week Program for Developing Ongoing Sharing in Your Marriage.
Salad Recipes from “America's #1 Love and Marriage Experts”.
Filing a Joint Return Activity.
Marriage as a Torch Red Convertible Activity.
About the Authors.
Dr. Charles D. Schmitz is dean and professor of counseling and family therapy, University of Missouri-St. Louis, and his wife, Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitz, is president of their joint enterprise, Successful Marriage Reflections, LLC. Married for 43-plus years, they live in St. Louis, Missouri.
Celebrities’ marital transgressions make headlines news for weeks while marital triumphs are rarely reported with such fervor. It’s become common for American audiences to see failed marriages as the norm in the absence of successful models. “The best way to understand how to make a marriage a success is to study successful marriage,” emphasize long-time spouses and marriage experts Drs. Charles and Elizabeth Schmitz. Following their own advice, the couple spent twenty-six years in six continents researching the pervasive characteristics present in all successful marriages. In the process, they demystified the simple tools required to make any marriage work.
BUILDING A LOVE THAT LASTS: The Seven Surprising Secrets of Successful Marriage (Jossey-Bass, a Wiley imprint; January 2010; $16.95; Paperback; ISBN: 978-0-470-57154-5), now in paperback after being called the "Best Relationship Book of 2008" by the Indie Book Awards, is the authors’ culminating treatise on lasting love. It offers a warm, candid, and fresh approach to reducing divorce and increasing the success of marriage.
In addition to exploring the seven key ingredients that define a successful marriage—togetherness, truthfulness, respect, fitness, joint finances, tactile communication, and surprise—Drs. Charles and Elizabeth Schmitz have included hundreds of insightful and practical interviews with happy couples of different faiths, ages, and ethnicities from around the globe. Whether just starting out or just starting over, couples from all walks will glean practical resources for cementing their relationship. The book even includes a seven-week conversation program to strengthen anyone’s marriage, salad recipes to improve healthy living, a financial exercise to review a couple’s status and goals, and the top ten benefits of marriage.
By focusing on what's right about a successful relationship, rather than what's wrong, BUILDING A LOVE THAT LASTS is a positive approach to the small things spouses can do to make marriage work. For couples, counselors, therapists, ministers, and professionals, this book provides hopeful, yet grounded expectations for the future of marriage.