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Creating Your Perfect Family Size: How to Make an Informed Decision About Having a Baby

ISBN: 978-0-470-90031-4
192 pages
May 2011, Jossey-Bass
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Answers to one of the most important decision a family can make

This groundbreaking book offers answers to crucial questions that have a large impact on family success and well-being. The author has been researching and treating couples for more than twenty years, addressing such critical issues as: When should you have kids? How many and why? Can you afford a family? What's the best interval between children's birth in a family? How does your work life influence how many kids to have? What's the impact of divorce, remarriage and blended families on the decision to have more kids? How does your family of origin, ethnicity, race, culture, and sexual preference influence the choices you have regarding these questions of number and spacing of childbirths.

  • Filled with common sense advice for the dilemmas most couples grapple with when starting a family
  • Based on solid research from a noted family therapist
  • Alan Singer has appeared on the Fox Morning News and MSNBC as well as being quoted in USA Today and The Huffington Post

Invaluable and fascinating, the book includes a wealth of self-tests that helps individuals to customize their own decision making based on their unique background and current situation.

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Table of Contents



1 Why Do You Want to Have Children?

2 When Is the Best Time for You to Have Children?

3 How Many Children Can Your Relationship Hold?

4 Small, Moderate, Large . . . What's Your Ideal Family Size?

5 How Do Old (and New) Family Traditions Affect Your Family Size?


Self-Tests: Family Size Choice.


Selected Resources.


About the Author.


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Author Information

Alan Singer, PhD, is a researcher and family therapist who's made it his life's work to study, treat, and advise couples who want to figure out how many children to have and when to have them.

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As a licensed family therapist and eighth child in his family, Singer has the experience to guide couples in choosing whether and how many children to have. The essence of the book is a series of comprehensive self-assessment quizzes dealing with physical and mental health, financial situations, family background, and so forth. He guides couples in considering their ideal family size, the spacing of children, and the best time to have children, if at all. Singer skillfully fills a void in the literature on this topic without judgment, and would be of assistance to any individual or couple considering having children. (Library Journal, July 2011)
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Press Release

June 21, 2011
Creating Your Perfect Family Size

Creating Your Perfect Family Size

San Francisco, CA - Starting a family is one of the biggest decisions in a person’s life.  Society has no set standard, and we live in an age where couples range from having a single child in their forties to half a dozen children in their twenties.  Parents are no less diverse.  There are countless single parents, divorced parents, adoptive parents, and combinations thereof.  How do you know when is the right time for you to have a child?

CREATING YOUR PERFECT FAMILY SIZE (Jossey-Bass, a Wiley imprint; May 2011; $16.95; Paper; ISBN: 978-0-470-90031-4) is a guide to that question.  Author Alan Singer uses both his findings as a researcher and his experience as a therapist to help prospective parents to the answer.  The book is a perfect read for anyone even considering parenthood.

It provides insight into the wide range of concerns any parent has, such as:

  •  “When is the best time?” 
  • “What age should I have kids?” 
  •  “Are my reasons for wanting a child valid?”
  • “How would my family affect me starting my own?” 

Creating Your Perfect Family Size handles such questions with grace, clarity, and examples that make this book appropriate for anyone, regardless of background or circumstance.

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