Love: An Unromantic Discussion
December 2002, Polity
This highly original book explores two aspects of the nature of the apparently socially essential 'glue' of love. The first theme concerns the sources of our ideas about love: where the concept originated and, most importantly, what its relationship has been to morality and moral systems. The second theme is our determination to find love: whatever the social and personal costs, the desire for identification with another person drives us to impossible expectations and occasionally damaging alternatives.
In a compelling critique, this book rejects the high romantic version of love as well as what could be described as a contractual version of love. In their place, it describes a love that depends upon reasoned care and commitment and argues that we should abandon love in its romanticized and commercialized form.
Chapter One: What is This Thing Called Love?.
Chapter Two: Going Back.
Chapter Three: The Language of Love.
Chapter Four: The Rules of Love.
Chapter Five: The Limits of Love.
Chapter Six: The Future of Love.
- Develops a highly-original and compelling critique of the idea of romantic love and offers an alternative view
- Investigates the source of our ideas about love and its relationship to morality and moral systems
- Explores the determination to find love in spite of the social and personal costs
- Written in a lively and entertaining way, with many examples drawn from literature and public life, from Jane Austen to Charles and Diana