Why Talking Is Not Enough: Eight Loving Actions That Will Transform Your Marriage
December 2010, Jossey-Bass
In this book you will learn how to transform your relationship into a Spiritual Partnership by adopting these Eight Loving Actions:
- Adopt a Spirit of Good Will
- Give Up Problem Solving
- Act as If
- Practice Restraint
- Balance Giving and Taking
- Act on Your Own
- Practice Acceptance
- Practice Compassion
PART ONE: What Is Spiritual Partnership?
1. Introducing Spiritual Partnership.
2. Loving Action 1: Adopt a Spirit of Good Will.
3. Loving Action 2: Give Up Problem Solving.
4. Loving Action 3: Act as If.
5. Loving Action 4: Practice Restraint.
6. Loving Action 5: Balance Giving and Taking.
7. Loving Action 6: Act onYour Own.
8. Loving Action 7: Practice Acceptance.
9. Loving Action 8: Practice Compassion.
PART TWO: Putting Spiritual Partnership to Work in Your Relationship.
10. Exactly How to Use the Eight Loving Actions.
11. Frequently Asked Questions.
12. Communication Within Spiritual Partnership.
13. Making Mature Judgments.
PART THREE: Seeing Spiritual Partnership in a Broader Context.
14. Defining the "Spiritual" in Spiritual Partnership.
15. The Future of Spiritual Partnership.
References and Further Reading.
About the Author.
Susan began her career as a Protestant campus minister at Washington University in St. Louis and at Columbia University in New York. She was director of women’s programs at the University of California, Berkeley, where she helped found the nation’s first university-based human sexuality program.
Her previous books include How One of You Can Bring the Two of You Together; The Eight Essential Traits of Couples Who Thrive; If I’m So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single? and The Shortest Distance Between You and a Published Book.
—Stephen R. Covey, author, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People and The 8th Habit: From Effectiveness to Greatness
"Clearly, a cutting-edge book! Page offers a new paradigm for couples that she calls Spiritual Partnership. Taking issue with much marital therapy based on communication, conflict resolution, and problem solving, she encourages partners to view their relationship as a spiritual practice. A fresh and challenging approach! I recommend this book to all couples."
—Harville Hendrix, author, Getting the Love You Want and coauthor (with Helen LaKelly Hunt), Receiving Love
"This book is simply wonderful."
—Christiane Northrup, M.D., author, Mother-Daughter Wisdom, The Wisdom of Menopause, and Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom
"If you’ve ever said, ‘I talk until I’m blue in the face,’ or ‘If I’ve told you once, I’ve told you a million times,’ it’s time to quit reciting the same old thing and read this book! It offers fail-proof, loving, action-oriented methods for getting through to your spouse and creating more connection and intimacy. With Page’s down-to-earth, simple-to-implement tools, you will quickly see that when it comes to relationship change, it’s easier done than said!"
—Michele Weiner-Davis, author, Divorce Busting
"Susan Page presents a strong case that actions speak louder than words. Far from being hard to do, Susan Page’s ideas are hard not to do, once you have been introduced to them. I highly recommend this book!"
—Anthony Robbins, author, Awaken the Giant Within and Unlimited Power
"This is a clear and practical presentation of how to bring spiritual principles into everyday relationships. Susan Page presents essential information that will help every couple create more love and harmony in their life."
—Barbara DeAngelis, author, How Did I Get Here?
"I love this book! It is truly a treasure. Susan courageously shows us why we need to stop talking about problems and start taking loving action. She clearly describes the actions we need to take to create loving, spiritually growing relationships. If you are having problems in your relationship, or you want to make your relationship even better than it is, read this book!"
—Margaret Paul, coauthor, Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved By You? and Healing Your Aloneness; and author, Inner Bonding and Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved By God?
"This exciting new book is a gem. It is one of the best presentations I’ve ever seen of how to bring spiritual principles into everyday relationships. Page is not talking about meditating for a weekend but about how to live your spirituality every day. This wonderful book presents a shift in consciousness that will help couples have a great relationship for a lifetime. I strongly recommend this book for all couples and singles who want to be the best possible partner they can be, now and in the future."
†Howard J. Markman, coauthor, 12 Hours to a Great Marriage and Fighting for Your Marriage
"This book describes an entirely new way for intimate partners to relate based on spiritual principles. In clear, simple language, Susan Page offers practical concepts and experiments that can improve your relationship in no time at all."
—Kathlyn and Gay Hendricks, authors, Conscious Loving and Spirit-Centered Relationships
"This book is like the Buddha channeled by Ann Landers! As a pastor, I have given away many copies of this book to people struggling in intimate relationships—and I’ve used it in my own marriage. There are many classics of spiritual wisdom and many nuts-and-bolts self-help books on relationships. Susan Page brilliantly combines the two. Her gift is to translate spiritual ideals into practical, understandable, and eminently achievable goals for everyday living in Spiritual Partnership. Read it, apply the lessons, and transform yourself and your relationship."
—The Rev. Fred Small, senior pastor, First Church Unitarian, Littleton, Massachusetts