How to be a Good Divorced Dad: Being the Best Parent You Can Be Before, During and After the Break-Up
April 2012, Jossey-Bass
The country's leading authority on fathers' rights Jeffery M. Leving presents a definitive how-to resource for divorced dads of any age, background, and marriage history. Leving offers targeted guidance and suggests techniques for staying connected with children and dealing with ex-wives—and in some cases a new girlfriend or the wife's new boyfriend—during the divorce and afterwards. This upbeat book offers good news for divorced dads and counters many of the myths that paint divorcing fathers as alienated, irresponsible, or absent.
- Includes advice for overcoming limited access to children with cooperative responses and legal remedies if necessary
- Reveals how to avoid depression and feelings of guilt that can cause a divorced dad to give up and lose connection with his kids
- Offers ideas for responding to an ex-wife's remarriage, moving, unfounded accusations, and other common issues
- Contains guidance for engaging in new relationships and possibly remarriage
How to Be a Good Divorced Dad is practical and down-to-earth and offers dozens of real life examples of dads who have discovered the importance of staying involved in their children's lives.
1 The Obstacles: Identify the Factors That Can Drive a Wedge Between You and Your Children 7
2 The Difference Between Good Dads and Struggling Fathers 25
3 The Impact of Divorce on Children: The Knowledge You Need, the Actions You Should Take 45
4 Romance: Use Your Head When It Comes to Your Heart 63
5 Money Issues: How to Manage Changing and Challenging Financial Situations 79
6 When There’s a New Man in Your Children’s Life: How to Avoid Being Replaced 97
7 Therapy Isn’t for Women Only: Dealing with Your Issues So You Can Have a Better Relationship with Your Kids 117
8 Legal Remedies: How the Courts Can Help You and Your Kids 133
9 Going Forward: How to Maintain and Strengthen Connections with Your Kids 149
10 Developing Trends and Changes That Still Need to Be Made 155
Jeffery M. Leving is the country's leading authority on fathers' rights and president emeritus of the Fatherhood Educational Institute. He has a weekly radio show in Chicago, a divorce magazine, and a website: www.dadsrights.com. He speaks frequently at lectures, trainings, and workshops for divorced dads around the country.
How to Be a Good Dad to Your Kids After a Divorce
Expert on Father's Rights Jeffery Leving Helps Men with Fatherhood & Divorce
San Francisco, CA - Father absence is a growing problem because of myriad factors—gender bias, vindictive spouses, legal trends in custody and visitation—all of which conspire to separate fathers from their children. The vast majority of dads want to be physically and emotionally present in their kids’ lives, but they can become discouraged and frustrated because of the just-listed factors.
HOW TO BE A GOOD DIVORCED DAD helps men meet the challenges and overcome the obstacles that stand in the way of their becoming fully-involved parents. Written by Jeffery Leving, the country's leading authority on fathers' rights, the book presents a definitive how-to resource for divorced dads of any age, background, and marriage history.
It offers targeted guidance and suggests techniques for staying connected with children and dealing with ex-wives—and in some cases a new girlfriend or the wife's new boyfriend—during the divorce and afterwards. Additionally the book provides advice on a wide range of topics such as:
- How to use legal strategies to increase the odds of receiving optimum custody and visitation agreements
- How to communicate with children at different ages experiencing different issues in order to maintain a strong father-child relationship
- How to deal with the low self-esteem and depression that can create a barrier between them and their children
The book provides real-life; inspiring stories of dads who found ways to become great, fully present fathers. These men made the sacrifices and put in the effort to defeat the forces that stood between them and their kids. Their examples will motivate readers and provide them with insights about how to be the best possible parent for their children during and after a divorce.
HOW TO BE A GOOD DIVORCED DAD offers provocative insights about gender bias, legal system trends and other factors that hurt parenting relationships, as well as draws Leving’s many years of expertise as the country’s leading fathers’ rights advocate to provide credible information and stories for divorcing or divorced dads.