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Smart Girls Screw Up Too: The No-Nonsense Guide to Creating The Life You Want




Smart Girls Screw Up Too: The No-Nonsense Guide to Creating The Life You Want

Bella Zanesco

ISBN: 978-0-730-34543-5 December 2017 336 Pages

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Own your screw ups, get inspired and create the life you want.

Sick of chasing the perfect relationship, career or bank balance? Tired of feeling like you’re never quite ‘enough’? You’re not alone. And it’s time to do something about it. Smart Girls Screw Up Too, is THE no-nonsense guide for a generation of women who secretly muse about what might be possible in their careers, health and relationships but don’t know where to start or are too afraid to.

When a clusterf**k of screw ups found author Bella Zanesco burnt out, depressed and with a broken soul, she knew something – perhaps everything – had to change. But what? Her first ports of call were the usual Band-Aids: Tinder, work and shopping. But soon, she realised those weren’t going to work. If she wanted to fix this thing, she was going to need to take extreme measures.

And so she began the journey that would transform her from ‘Sad Girl’ to ‘Smart Girl’; a journey that meant taking up all the things that she’d been told were good for her but she had always been too afraid, too ‘busy’, or too lazy to try. Cue everything from green juices to setting boundaries to quitting her job to culling her friends.

Delivered with no-holds-barred honesty, humour and compassion, Smart Girls Screw Up Too brings together:  the latest research into gut science, neuroscience and epigenetics; ancient tribal wisdom; interviews with global game changers; and insights from the author’s own two-year study of over 2000 women. Paired with a Personal Life Audit, you will get immediate clarity about where to start when seeking purpose, vitality and love. And, together with Bella – the wise but ass-kicking bestie you wish you’d known earlier – you’ll embark on a series of simple daily challenges that will not only get you to the root causes of why you think, feel and behave as you do, but see you making changes that stick.

No matter what your starting point, you are capable of creating the life you want NOW.

Prelude: Those two little words ix

Introduction: Why screwing up is a really good thing xiii

Part I: The Foundations: Clarity: Who am I and what do I want? 1

1 Feelings and emotions: Welcome to the upside: please leave your umbrella at the door 5

2 Aligned decision making: Rediscovering your inner Smart Girl 23

3 Personal beliefs and self-confidence: The world is a scary place. Oh, hang on … it’s not 37

4 Vision and purpose: What the hell am I even building here? 59

Part II: The Inside Job: Connection: Creating a thriving mind, body and spirit 79

5 Physical health and energy levels: Why yoga rocks 83

6 Mental health and resilience: Silence the verbally incontinent b**ch in your head 97

7 Gut health and intuition: I think my sixth sense is broken 113

8 Hormones and moods: Enter the red tent 131

9 Yin and Yang energy balance: How do I wake up my Braveheart? 151

Part III: The Outside Job: Confidence: Unapologetically being who you want to be in the world 165

10 Home and places: Change what I see to change me 169

11 Friendships and support networks: Set up your tribe 189

12 Leisure and play: Relearning how to play 209

13 Creativity and learning: Stage a creative coup 225

14 Work and finances: How to create a career you don’t want to escape from: a Q&A 241

15 Relationships and family: The L word 269

Conclusion: The Golden Glue 287

Where to seek help if you have mental health challenges 291

Further reading, learning and thinking list 293

Where to next? 299

Acknowledgements 301

About the author 305

Index 307