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""Does Wednesday Mean Mom's House or Dad's?"" Parenting Together While Living Apart, 2nd Edition

""Does Wednesday Mean Mom's House or Dad's?"" Parenting Together While Living Apart, 2nd Edition

Marc J. Ackerman

ISBN: 978-0-470-25720-3 March 2008 224 Pages




Thorough in coverage and updated with topics that affect today's families, Does Wednesday Mean Mom's House or Dad's?, Second Edition helps you keep your children in the number-one, priority spot before, during, and after your divorce. Nonjudgmental in tone, the new edition will show you how to put your kids' best interests first as you work with your spouse to parent together while living apart.


Chapter I. A House Divided.

Facts About Divorce.

Chapter II. Moving Ahead: Telling Children About Divorce.

Concrete Thinkers in an Abstract Situation.

When Your Child is No Longer a Child.

Boys and Girls React Differently.

Adjustments Abound.

Mourning the End of a Marriage.

Not Enough Hours in the Day, Not Enough Friends in the World.

One Magical Wish.

Chapter III. Custody Options: The Best Interest of the Child.

Joint versus Sole Custody.

Chronic Mental Illness Leads to a Topsy-Turvy World.

Active Alcoholism or Other Drug Abuse and Children Don't Mix.

Physical or Sexual Abuse: Confounding Dilemmas.

Violating Orders, Communication Failure, Obstructing Visits.

Endangering Your Children.

Separate Lives Under One Roof, Then the Great Divide.

Giving Up Placement.

Grandparents: Help or Hindrance.

Chapter IV. Navigating the Legal Waters.

Finding An Attorney.

Don't be Attracted by Unrealistic Promises.

Avoid ""Hired Guns"" and ""Dirty Tricks"" Attorneys.

Switching Attorneys.

Telling Your Story in Court.

Acting as Your own Attorney.

Mediation as a First Step.



The Court Process.

The Guardian ad Litem.

The Custody Study.

Custody Evaluation.

To Supervise or Not To Supervise.

Removal Cases.

Going Back to Court.


Chapter V. Two of Everything? Dealing with the Practicalities of Placement and Custody.

Placement of Young Children.

The Ackerman Plan.

Bad Schedules.

General Rules.

Separating Children.

Uninterrupted Time.

Different Cities: Creating a Placement Road Map.

Making Things Work under New Rules.

The Master Schedule.

Visits and Flexibility Work Hand and Hand.

Dividing Property with an Eye on Details.

Parents' Rights.

College Education.

Religious Training.

Phone Calls.




Parents Working after Divorce.

Chapter VI. How to Parent Apart.

The Family Conference: Increasing Avenues of Communication.

A United Front.

Making Placement Better.

Power to the Children.

Children as Coequals.

Sleeping Arrangements.

Children in the Middle.

A Different Sort of Communication.

Fighting in Front of the Children.

Where to Live.

Problems with the Other Parent.

Parents Who Won't Visit.

Lack of Cooperation.

The Mentally Ill Parent.

Chapter VII. Maltreatment.

Physical Abuse.

Who Will Be the Abusers?

Proving Abuse.

Consequences of Childhood Physical Abuse.

Family/Domestic Violence.

Domestic Violence and Custody.

To Stay or Not to Stay: Is That Your Quandry?

Emotional/Psychological Abuse.

Sexual Abuse.

Who Are the Sexual Abusers?

Evaluatiang Sexual Abuse.

If You Think Your Child Has Been Sexually Abused.

Sexual Abuse Allegations: True or False.

Devastating Effects of Sexual Abuse.


Chapter VIII. The Only Certainty in Life is Change.

Move-Away Placement Plan.

Longer Lasting Reactions.

A Plan to Make Everyone Feel Better.

The Challenge of Additional Adjustments.


The Role of the Stepparent.

Disciplining Children.

Cementing Relationships.

The Other Extended Family.

Change as Children Grow Older.

Chapter IX. Custody Do's and Don'ts

A Boy Named Chris.

Custody Do's.

Custody Don'ts.

Chapter X. Resources Abound.



Social Workers.

Professional Organizations.