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Don't Let Others Rent Space in Your Head: Your Guide to Living Well, Overcoming Obstacles, and Winning at Everything in Life

Don't Let Others Rent Space in Your Head: Your Guide to Living Well, Overcoming Obstacles, and Winning at Everything in Life

Gary Coxe

ISBN: 978-0-471-74693-5

Dec 2005

272 pages

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$33.00

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Praise for Don't Let Others Rent Space in Your Head

""Gary offers rich advice for anyone who wishes to succeed in spite of his or her failures. Four simple steps may be all that stand in the way of your dreams becoming a reality. Here's to the good life! Cheers!""
--Robin Leech, TV host

""Gary has developed an uncanny ability to take people to the next level. A must-read for everyone, whether you want to improve your life, your sales, or your business. Gary definitely has it figured out. Well done!""
--Harvey MacKay, New York Times bestselling author of Swim with the Sharks Without Being Eaten Alive

""Gary's thought process is one to admire and to achieve. Handling big business means changing your mindset, and Gary leads the way. An enjoyable book with great concepts for everyone in business and in personal life. A book you'll want to read twice.""
--Gordon ""Butch"" Stewart, owner of Sandals Resorts

""A powerful and practical approach from someone who truly knows what he's talking about. You will be unstoppable after reading Gary's no-nonsense ideas on never giving up and becoming more successful.""
--Ron Rice, founder, President, and CEO of Hawaiian Tropics

""Gary's book will take you beyond positive thinking and change your life for the better.""
--Ron Garl, President of Ron Garl Golf Design
Chapter 0: Why Motivation Isn’t Always Motivational.

Chapter 1: What Does ""Don't Let Others Rent Space In Your Head"" Really Mean?

Chapter 2: Inquiring Minds Don’t Even Believe It.

Chapter 3: Okay, You Can Rent Spacein Your Head, But Only to Good Tenants!

Chapter 4: You Can't Change What You Don't Acknowledge.

Chapter 5: When Life Gives You Lemons, Don't Drink the Lemonade.

Chapter 6: Irrational Optimism.

Chapter 7: The Hoax of Positive Thinking.

Chapter 8: Mental Vertigo—Do You Have it?

Chapter 9: Beware of the Marathon Runner Who Smiles.

Chapter 10: Be Prepared to Abort or Lose an Engine— The Power of Negative Thinking.

Chapter 11: Nothing is Good or Bad, but Thinking Makes it so!

Chapter 12: Positive Thinking is a Lie, But it's a Start.

Chapter 13: Rewiring Your Brain—Going Beyond Positive Thinking: The Four-Step Process.

Chapter 14: Feeling Is Believing.

Chapter 15: Play Games With Your Mind Instead of Letting Your Mind Play Games With You.

Chapter 16: Acknowledge The Journey.

Chapter 17: It's Time to Re-edit Your Video.

Chapter 18: Energizing your Life In Spite of the Obstacles—Pulling It All Together.

Chapter 19: ""Fill Your Own Well So Your Cup Can Run Over To Help Others"".

Index.

In this argumentative, sometimes counterintuitive self-help book, first-time author Coxe declares that ""positive thinking is a lie and it doesn't work!"" It doesn't create lasting results; it is very difficult if you're emotionally spent; and when it fails, you just feel worse. Instead of avoiding negative thoughts and emotions, he says, you should acknowledge and manipulate them to attain success. The key to using negative feelings constructively is learning ""to play games with our minds instead of our minds playing games with us."" Coxe, who rails against other ""pop-psychologists"" and attributes his own expertise to life experience, offers a few basic tools, such as scenario planning, emotion control techniques and the book's centerpiece, ""The 4-Step Process,"" a series of reframing exercises that identify readers' ""empowering beliefs and thoughts"" and their ""limiting"" ones. (Explaining why his 4-Step Process includes a step on positive thinking, Coxe does some reframing of his own, arguing that ""it's not so much positive thinking itself that's the hoax, it's the way it is presented."") Coxe declares that his process can cure people of longtime phobias ""in less than an hour."" Readers intrigued by his multiple appearances on television's Maury Povich Show may want to pick up this book. (Dec.) (Publishers Weekly, October 10, 2005)