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Get Off Your ""But"": How to End Self-Sabotage and Stand Up for Yourself



Get Off Your ""But"": How to End Self-Sabotage and Stand Up for Yourself

Sean Stephenson, Anthony Robbins (Foreword by)

ISBN: 978-0-470-39993-4 April 2009 Jossey-Bass 240 Pages


"Sean is an amazing person with an important message."
President Bill Clinton

"Sean Stephenson is the Yoda of personal development, with less pointy ears."
Jimmy Kimmel, host of ABC's Jimmy Kimmel Live

"As we struggle with inertia to become the best that we can be, Sean Stephenson's book informs and inspires us to stand up and keep moving forward. Thank you, Sean, for your life, your work, and your abundant sharing."
Ken Blanchard, coauthor, The One Minute Manager

"Sean Stephenson is a hero to me.When you read his book, he will be a hero to you as well. His moving stories about himself and others who have found the gifts in their pain will teach you so much about courage and, just as important, you will learn how to build your ownsense of confidence when it comes to health, career, relationships, and more. Do yourself a favor read this book! "
Susan Jeffers, Ph.D., author, Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway® and Embracing Uncertainty

Acknowledgments vii

Foreword by Anthony Robbins ix

Born to Kick BUT: The Short Story of a Big Life 1

Lesson 1 Start Connecting 34

How Rene Got Off His BUT 64

Lesson 2 Watch What You Say to Yourself! 70

How Bobby Got Off His BUT 97

Lesson 3 Master Your Physical Confidence 103

How Andréa Got Off Her BUT 132

Lesson 4 Focus Your Focus 138

How Mike Got Off His BUT 159

Lesson 5 Choose Your Friends Wisely 164

How Peter Got Off His BUT 188

Lesson 6 Take Full Responsibility 193

One Last Thing . . . 220

Resources 221

The Author 225


In Stephenson’s powerful and practical debut, the psychotherapist and professional speaker reveals how to banish self-doubt and insecurity in a world where they may seem omnipresent. Beginning with the source of his own struggle, a rare and painful disease that causes his bones to weaken and break under minimal pressure, Stephenson offers a structured approach to a wide array of topics, including dating, weight loss, lack of motivation, friendship, finances, and goals. While his advice is encouraging and insightful, Stephenson’s text is also notable for examples, mottos and resonant personal stories of enormous obstacles and accomplishments (his work with the Clinton administration, attaining his Ph.D., opening his own private practice). Though his unwavering optimism can be daunting (bringing one’s day-to-day gripes into sharp relief), Stephenson is empowering and uplifting throughout, and should prove helpful whether facing a lifelong challenge or a more immediate battle. (May) (, May 18, 2009)