Healing Your Emotional Self: A Powerful Program to Help You Raise Your Self-Esteem, Quiet Your Inner Critic, and Overcome Your Shame
DescriptionHealing Your Emotional Self
"Emotionally abusive parents are indeed toxic parents, and they cause significant damage to their children's self-esteem, self-image, and body image. In this remarkable book, Beverly Engel shares her powerful Mirror Therapy program for helping adult survivors to overcome their shame and self-criticism, become more compassionate and accepting of themselves, and create a more posititve self-image. I strongly recommend it for anyone who was abused or neglected as a child."
--Susan Forward, Ph.D., author of Toxic Parents
"In this book, Beverly Engel documents the wide range of psychological abuses that so many children experience in growing up. Her case examples and personal accounts are poignant and powerful reminders that as adults, many of us are still limited by the defenses we formed when trying to protect ourselves in the face of the painful circumstances we found ourselves in as children. Engle's insightful questionnaires and exercises provide concrete help in the healing process, and her writing style is lively and engaging. This book is destined to positively affect many lives."
--Joyce Catlett, M.A., coauthor of Fear of Intimacy
The Emotionally Abusive Relationship
"Beverly Engel clearly and with caring offers step-by-step strategies to stop emotional abuse . . . helping both victims and abusers to identify the patterns of this painful and traumatic type of abuse."
--Marti Tamm Loring, Ph.D., author of Emotional Abuse
Loving Him without Losing You
"A powerful and practical guide to relationships that every woman should read."
--Barbara De Angelis, Ph.D., author of Are You the One for Me?
Part One. How Your Parents Shape Your Self-Esteem, Self-Image, and Body Image.
1 Our Parents as Mirrors.
2 The Seven Types of Negative Parental Mirrors.
3 Your Body as a Mirror.
4 How Mirror Therapy Works.
Part Two. Shattering Your Distorted Parental Mirror.
5 Rejecting Your Parents’ Negative Reflection.
6 Emotionally Separating from Your Parents.
7 Quieting and Countering Your Inner Critic.
Part Three. Creating a New Mirror.
8 Looking Deeper into the Mirror: Discovering the Real You.
9 Providing for Yourself What You Missed as a Child.
10 Learning to Love Your Body.
Part Four. Specialized Help.
11 If You Were Neglected, Rejected, or Abandoned: Healing the “I Am Unlovable” and “I Am Worthless” Mirrors.
12 If You Were Overprotected or Emotionally Smothered: Healing the “I Am Nothing without My Parent” Mirror.
13 If You Were Overly Controlled or Tyrannized: Healing the “I Am Powerless” Mirror.
14 If You Had Overly Critical, Shaming, or Perfectionistic Parents: Healing the “I Am Bad,” “I Am Unacceptable,” and “I Am Not Good Enough” Mirrors.
15 If You Had a Self-Absorbed or Narcissistic Parent: Healing the “I Don’t Matter” Mirror.
16 Continuing to Heal.
Appendix: Recommended Therapies.