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Relationships in Counseling and the Counselor's Life

Relationships in Counseling and the Counselor's Life

Jeffrey A. Kottler, Richard S. Balkin

ISBN: 978-1-119-37544-9

Oct 2016

210 pages

Select type: E-Book



In this engaging book, Jeffrey Kottler and Richard Balkin address common misconceptions about what works in counseling and offer suggestions for building constructive counseling relationships and facilitating positive counseling outcomes. Key aspects of the client–counselor relationship are supported by interesting examples and stories integrated with clinically useful research on counseling results.

Part 1 reviews basic assumptions about the nature of helping relationships and examines how and why they can empower client change efforts. Part 2 describes practical approaches to encourage client trust and growth, including chapters on the cultural and environmental context of relationships; the ways in which counseling is used to treat trauma; how exchanging stories solidifies and fortifies counseling relationships; and using creative and innovative
techniques to enhance relationships. Part 3 discusses the influence of relationships on counselors’ personal lives and explores how counselors are affected by their work, process disappointments and failures, and deal with personal conflicts.


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“Drs. Kottler and Balkin present one of the most comprehensive and readable texts on the power of relationships to connect, heal, and restore people to their best selves. Anyone who is interested in counseling or helping in general needs to read this exquisitely crafted book.” —Paul R. Peluso, PhD, Florida Atlantic University

“In this book, Kottler and Balkin blend the known experiences of seasoned counselors with empirical research on relationships. They challenge our mindsets and ask us to question our assumptions and open our worldview about the relational aspects of counseling. This book is applicable to experienced counselors seeking new ways to approach and strengthen relationships, as well as to beginning counselors looking to apply the tenets of basic theories of counseling.”
—Donna S. Sheperis, PhD, Palo Alto University”