Introduction: Rethinking Potential.
1 Tempering Perfectionism: What Is “Good Enough”?
Michael: Focusing on flaws.
Kirsten: Deflecting blame.
Sam: Avoiding activities at which he doesn’t excel.
Angela: Feeling inadequate.
2 Building Connection: How Does Your Child Reach Out to Others?
Andrew: Seeking an audience rather than a friend.
Clay: Avoiding joining the group.
Amalia: Feeling rejected by peers.
3 Managing Sensitivity: How Does Your Child Handle Criticism, Conflict, and Disappointment?
Mario: Perceiving betrayal.
Jessica: Balking at constructive feedback.
Samir: Chafing at a change of plans.
Collin: Shouldering the world’s woes.
4 Handling Cooperation and Competition: How Does Your Child Fit in a Group?
Steven: Insisting on his way.
Anita: Being a sore loser.
Misha: Fearing competition.
Craig: Dealing with competition in the family.
5 Dealing with Authority: How Does Your Child Respond to Those in Charge?
Lisa: Being blind to authority.
Nicholas: Making everything an argument.
Stephanie: Fretting about adults’ anger.
6 Developing Motivation: What Matters to Your Child?
Ethan: Avoiding schoolwork.
Jared: Complaining that schoolwork is boring.
Diane: Not applying herself in school.
7 Finding Joy: What Makes Your Child Feel Happy?
Monica: Finding fault instead of fun.
Conner: Searching for personal meaning.
Conclusion: The Pressure to Perform Versus the Power to Grow.
Selected References and Recommended Reading.
About the Authors.
– Stephen R. Covey, author, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
“A smart, deeply perceptive and important book.”
– Wendy Mogel, PhD, author, The Blessing of a Skinned Knee
"This book helps parents see how to encourage their children to develop as whole people with feelings, ideas, and the ability to cope with the occasional disappointment too."
– Roberta Michnick Golinkoff, PhD, author of Einstein Never Used Flash Cards
“Filled with vignettes and strategies for raising smart kids to become healthy, happy and contributing adults.”
– Vicki Abeles, Producer, Race to Nowhere