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Tame the Primitive Brain: 28 Ways in 28 Days to Manage the Most Impulsive Behaviors at Work

Tame the Primitive Brain: 28 Ways in 28 Days to Manage the Most Impulsive Behaviors at Work

Mark Bowden

ISBN: 978-1-118-56673-2 February 2013 304 Pages




A new and simple system to understanding and controlling the behavior of others

Noted body language, behavior and communication expert Mark Bowden offers a totally practical, easy-to-read guide to understanding the impulsive actions of others, along with the best tools to manage them. A number one anxiety in business is dealing with problem people. In Tame the Primitive Brain, Mark Bowden's fresh approach is the fastest and most effective way to understand why someone acts towards you the way they do; why you react to their behavior in the way you do; and most importantly, what exactly to do about it to achieve the right outcomes.

  • Brings new and fresh perspectives to business readers for dealing with tricky behaviors
  • Explains how to effectively manage those around you at any level in an organization
  • Shares the latest evolutionary behavioral theory, neuroscientific evidence, and the tried and tested tools and tricks based on these premises

This simple model of how we humans can and do relate to each other brings increased depth of understanding and expands your toolset to better manage yourself and others to achieve anything.

Acknowledgments ix

Preface xi

Introduction 1


Day One Shared Instincts 11

Day Two Snap Judgments 22

Day Three Default to the Negative 32

Day Four Best-Fit Thinking 40

Day Five Friend, Enemy, Sexual Partner, or Indifferent 49

Day Six Moods and Emotions 59

Day Seven The Spice of Life 73


Day Eight Relationships Are Dyadic 87

Day Nine Opposites Attract 95

Day Ten BFFs 105

Day Eleven Enemies 114

Day Twelve Indifference 125

Day Thirteen Moods Are Contagious 132

Day Fourteen The Four Stages of Relationship 141


Day Fifteen We Are Tribal 153

Day Sixteen Tribal Nurture 161

Day Seventeen Hierarchy 168

Day Eighteen Tension 176

Day Nineteen Values 187

Day Twenty Diversity 196

Day Twenty-One Changing Tribes Is Expensive 206


Day Twenty-Two Suspend Judgment 217

Day Twenty-Three Be Curious 225

Day Twenty-Four Open Your Heart 235

Day Twenty-Five Give 243

Day Twenty-Six Manage Your Disappointment 250

Day Twenty-Seven Values Trump Rules 257

Day Twenty-Eight Expand Your Tribe 267

Conclusion 275

Further Reading and Resources 278

About the Author 282

Index 283