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What's Stopping You? Being More Confident: Why Smart People Can Lack Confidence and What You Can Do About It

What's Stopping You? Being More Confident: Why Smart People Can Lack Confidence and What You Can Do About It

Robert Kelsey

ISBN: 978-0-857-08319-7

Nov 2012, Capstone

272 pages

$12.99

Description

A prescriptive, commonsense approach to self-confidence and success

With his bestselling book, What's Stopping You, Robert Kelsey helped thousands of people conquer their fear of failure and unlock their full potential in life.  Now Robert is applying his unique approach to the subject of confidence. According to Robert, it’s not something that can simply be injected into us through motivational exercises and positive thinking. What's Stopping You…Being More Confident? highlights the key reasons why you might be lacking confidence in the first place, what causes self-doubt or makes you feel less able than others. Then we are shown how to turn this around, by examining the traits that make someone confident.

  • Follow-up to the ground-breaking bestseller, What's Stopping You?, with the same intelligent approach to self-help
  • A road map to help us break down the barriers that make us shy away from achieving our full potential
  • How to recognize what you’re good at, but also what you're not good at
  • Includes tactics for maintaining self-assurance and learning how to apply these in real-life practical situations
  • Based on extensive research and personal experience

"Everyone has moments of doubt - this practical and persoanl book can help remove those demons and boost morale.  I recommend it strongly"
Luke Johnson, RSA Chairman, Financial Times columnist and author of Start It Up!

"This combination of searing honesty and genuine curiosity about how our lives are shaped makes for compelling reading"
Fi Glover, multi-award winning braodcast journalist and BBC radio presenter

"An invaluable resource for anyone lacking confidence"
John Caunt, author of Boost Your Self-Esteem

Introduction 1

Part One – Explaining Poor Confidence 7

1 Scripts 9

2 Mindset 22

3 Reactions 34

4 The Journey 45

Part Two – The Alchemy of Confidence 57

5 Optimism and Resilience 59

6 Self-Efficacy and Talent 69

7 Courage and Extraversion 78

8 Trust and Judgement 87

Part Three – Achievement 97

9 Identity 99

10 Goals 110

11 The Plan 120

Part Four – Situations 133

12 Shyness 135

13 Developing Confidence at Work 147

14 Working with Others 157

15 Dating 170

Part Five – Barriers 179

16 Prejudice 181

17 Procrastination 188

18 Depression 194

19 Stress and Anxiety 202

20 Hubris 210

The Route to Confidence – in Seven Stages 221

What the Psychologists Say 224

Bibliography 233

About Robert Kelsey 237

Index 239