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Why Can't We Get Along?: Healing Adult Sibling Relationships

Why Can't We Get Along?: Healing Adult Sibling Relationships

Peter Goldenthal

ISBN: 978-0-471-38842-5

Apr 2002

237 pages

Select type: Paperback

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Praise for Peter Goldenthal s previous books:

"[Dr. Goldenthal s] techniques...are presented with insight and clarity. This is a unique and valuable book." --William B. Carey, M.D., Clinical Professor of Pediatrics, University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine

"Peter Goldenthal gives us new insights.... This is a must-read book." --Myrna Shure, Ph.D., author of Raising a Thinking Child

Hasn t it gone on long enough the rivalry, the jealousy, the pent-up anger, and the grudges rooted in the past? In this book, renowned author and family psychologist Peter Goldenthal offers proven prescriptions for brothers and sisters who want to break through old, destructive patterns and create a richer, more loving, and more rewarding relationship with their adult siblings.

Using dramatic case histories drawn from his own clinical practice, Dr. Goldenthal helps you understand why adult siblings fight. Warmly and insightfully, he presents practical techniques to:
* Communicate with and listen to your sibling
* Free yourself from past resentments
* Cope with your sibling s selfish or inconsiderate behavior
* Support and comfort a sibling who suffers from mood problems
* Manage a sibling s difficult personality
* Help your children avoid sibling problems
Don t let old hurts and destructive behavior patterns overshadow the love you feel for your sibling. Read Why Can t We Get Along? and find the key to establishing warm and loving sibling relationships that will last a lifetime.

Preface xi

Acknowledgements xv

Introduction 1

Part 1: Understanding Sibling Relationships 7

1 Five Myths about Sibling Rivalry 9

2 Acknowledgement is Powerful 27

3 Know Yourself: The Value of Self-Awareness 47

Part 2: Strategies for Healing Sibling Relationships 65

4 How to Talk – and listen to – Your Sibling 67

5 Freeing Yourself from Resentment 91

6 How to Break Destructive Patterns 113

Part 3 Help with Hard-to-Heal Relationships 131

7 “My Sibling Is Just So Selfish!” 133

8 “But I’m Still Angry!” 149

9 Understanding and Helping a Sibling with Mood Problems 163

10 Understanding and Managing Your Sibling with Mood Problems 163

Part 4: Looking to the Future 201

11 Eighteen Ways to Help Your Children Avoid Sibling Struggles 203

Afterword 225

Index 227