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Why Talking Is Not Enough: Eight Loving Actions That Will Transform Your Marriage

Why Talking Is Not Enough: Eight Loving Actions That Will Transform Your Marriage

Susan Page

ISBN: 978-1-118-04101-7

Dec 2010, Jossey-Bass

304 pages



Why Talking Is Not Enough, written by Susan Page, author of the acclaimed bestseller If I’m So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single? presents a novel relationship strategy based on subtle, powerful changes in your own actions. This method shows you the magic of “Keep your mouth out of it!” Page’s pioneering eight-step program invites you to give up problem solving and move directly to a warmer, more loving and fun relationship, based on universal spiritual principles.

In this book you will learn how to transform your relationship into a Spiritual Partnership by adopting these Eight Loving Actions:

  • Adopt a Spirit of Good Will
  • Give Up Problem Solving
  • Act as If
  • Practice Restraint
  • Balance Giving and Taking
  • Act on Your Own
  • Practice Acceptance
  • Practice Compassion

Introduction 1


What Is Spiritual Partnership?

1. Introducing Spiritual Partnership 11

2. Loving Action 1: Adopt a Spirit of Good Will 47

3. Loving Action 2: Give Up Problem Solving 55

4. Loving Action 3: Act as If 71

5. Loving Action 4: Practice Restraint 89

6. Loving Action 5: Balance Giving and Taking 115

7. Loving Action 6: Act on Your Own 129

8. Loving Action 7: Practice Acceptance 157

9. Loving Action 8: Practice Compassion 183


Putting Spiritual Partnership to Work in Your Relationship

10. Exactly How to Use the Eight Loving Actions 209

11. Frequently Asked Questions 221

12. Communication Within Spiritual Partnership 231

13. Making Mature Judgments 241


Seeing Spiritual Partnership in a Broader Context

14. Defining the “Spiritual” in Spiritual Partnership 249

15. The Future of Spiritual Partnership 279

References and Further Reading 291

About the Author 295